| Some 2K10 Goals by God's special grace n power |
- Paint entire house
- Set up entire downstairs including garage
- Reduce credit card debt by at least $2k
- Pay off any miscellaneous debt
- Most definitely get into a committed relationship
Most definitely send money to mom for a new car- Take time to develop relationships
- At least, 2 patents
- Aggresively work on developing iPhone App dev skills
- Create a webpage for DJing
- Expand my career breadth
- Visit London
- Join Toastmasters
- Create a will and a Power of Attorney 4 Healthcare
- Take complete control of soda drinking
- Work on taking a CPR class
SO, HELP ME GOD!
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| Some 2K7 Goals by God's special grace n power |
Finally buy some Nyja stocksGet a loaded Thinkpad or Sony VaioJoin MentorPlace n consistently mentorPut at least $2K in stocks apart from investment club contr. & 401kTake complete control of coffee
SO, HELP ME GOD!
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| Some 2K6 Goals by God's grace |
Have a white paper publishedWork on increasing payGet to the next band at workHelp renovate mom's placeGive mom n bro at least $*K each for weddingFinally visit Nyja!!!
Take a real estate class
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| My Videos |
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Go Getta. R. Kelly
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| Music I'm Feeling... |
- 2Face
- Ebenezer Obey
- KWAM 1
- Cassandra Wilson
- Pharell
- Ne-Yo
- T.O.K
- Don Moen
- D4L
- Teddy Pendergrass
- ColdPlay
- DMB
- Notorious B.I.G
- Delirious
- Dem Franchise Boyz
- Frank Sinatra
- Evanescence
- All-American Rejects
- Billie Holiday
- Seal
- Obesere
- KEM
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| Books I'm reading... |
Zero DebtThe Millionaire Next DoorThe Street Lawyer- African Women: Three Generations
- Communication, Sex & Money
- The J2EE Tutorial
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| Cities I Have Visited |
- ATL, GA
- Austin,TX
- Detroit, MI
- Houston, TX
- Charlotte, NC
- Corning, NY
- NYC, NY
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Wednesday, March 15, 2006
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Conversations!
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This was a conversation a couple of people had through email. I just thought it was interesting.
From: Annonymous
Sent: Tuesday, February 28, 2006 12:48 PM
To: Annonymouses
Cc: bc
Subject: RE: Friday's thoughts
I know a woman who loves a man. This man does not love her. He is using her, because she has financial assets over which she gives him control. He is using her, for her money and because he wants someone to raise his children. But this man loves a different woman, and he is at her place every weekend. The first woman is in love, and it looks like it is "unconditional."
I also have a relative who was in love with a married man. This relationship went on for years. When the man divorced his wife, he then married another woman (not my relative). My relative is still in love with him, and it looks like it is "unconditional."
The poets and songwriters say that "love is blind", and that we are "fools for love." And I think that they have a point.
But it doesn't sound very healthy...
From: Annonymous
Sent: Monday, February 27, 2006 5:22 PM
To: Annonymouses
Cc: bc (mailer list)
Subject: RE: Friday's thoughts
Hmmm... I would argue against foolish and blind. More like free and beautiful, and the ultimate kind of love
I'm beginning to see and learn that to be able to forgive as a sign of unconditional love is one of the most powerful things about love. But it's also the most difficult because it's not something that's innate in us as human beings. Our instinct is to love with "conditions" that satisfy ourselves. As long as you love me, I'll love you. As long as you don't hurt me, I'll love you, etc. It's hard to reason in our minds to love someone when we feel they don't deserve it. But that is what unconditional love is. It doesn't mean you're being blind to what may have been done, or whatever seriousness the situation holds. It's just being able to separate the action from the person. In Christian terms, "hate the sin, not the sinner".
Lack of forgiveness is more detrimental to the one who doesn't forgive, moreso than the one who's not forgiven because as Deb's thought says below, an unforgiving heart carries "baggage" and "bitterness", which doesn't allow us to be free. I see my dad still bitter and holding onto something his own sister did to him seven years ago. This affects his relationship with her, and its evident that it affects him by the comments that he'll make concerning her and the situation (7 years ago). I see this and it's pretty sad to me… so I don't want to be like that, and I try to challenge myself and pray to GOD to rid me of bitterness that I may have and be able to forgive when it hurts and I feel I shouldn't have to.
Anywayz, this is something that's been on my mind. I imagine the closest thing we'll get to truly unconditional love is for our children. I just have a feeling that no matter what I do concerning my parents, they'll still love me unconditionally. And I'm sure I'll feel the same way whenever I have kids.
From: Annonymous
Sent: Friday, February 24, 2006 4:11 PM
To: Annonymouses
Cc: bc (mailer list)
Subject: RE: Friday's thoughts
"Unconditional love" ... isn't this synonymous with being "foolish" and "blind"?
There are things that can't (and shouldn't) be forgiven. Aren't there?
Well, that's the way I see it...
From: Annonymous
Sent: Friday, February 24, 2006 3:43 PM
To: Annonymous
Cc: bc (mailer list)
Subject: Deb's Friday's thoughts
Isn't a forgiving heart an integral part of unconditionally loving someone?
From: Annonymous
Sent: Friday, February 24, 2006 11:44
To: Annonymouses
Cc: bc (mailer list)
Subject: Friday's thoughts
Love is unconditional! It does not seek to please self but protects, trusts, and preserves. It is difficult for us to have patience and to be kind when we have been done wrong. Our human nature desires to seek revenge, to make them pay for the hurt and pain they have inflicted upon us.
Sure, we can obtain a moment's gratification from revenge, but we will also gain the baggage of bitterness that accompanies it. It is up to us to make a choice to forgive and to love regardless of whom, when, and how. Seems a difficult task, but one that can be accomplished, with the power that dwells within each of us.
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I find your posting very interesting and very illustrative of how varying we are in how we feel about forgiveness and love. I do know people who think that it is foolish or blind to love unconditionally. The thing is, I don't believe we have a choice in the matter. I believe that when we truly love someone, we just do. Even when they hurt or disappoint us, we love them. While it may be unhealthy for us to give ourselves over to this hurtful person, it isn't foolish to love them. Loving unconditionally is pure and sweet. As you point out, we don't usually fall out of love with our children. (Isn't it wonderful to know that your parents will always love you, no matter what?) If we never give over to unconditional love because the object of our affection might hurt or disappoint us, how can we ever truly love? I think that you are right that a forgiving heart is more apt to free us from the bitterness that makes it hard to fully love.
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If we never give over to unconditional love because the object of our affection might hurt or disappoint us, how can we ever truly love? Now, that's deep, Sandra. I love that. I wish I could get there though. I will be working on it. :)
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I find your posting very interesting and very illustrative of how varying we are in how we feel about forgiveness and love. I do know people who think that it is foolish or blind to love unconditionally. The thing is, I don't believe we have a choice in the matter. I believe that when we truly love someone, we just do. Even when they hurt or disappoint us, we love them. While it may be unhealthy for us to give ourselves over to this hurtful person, it isn't foolish to love them. Loving unconditionally is pure and sweet. As you point out, we don't usually fall out of love with our children. (Isn't it wonderful to know that your parents will always love you, no matter what?) If we never give over to unconditional love because the object of our affection might hurt or disappoint us, how can we ever truly love? I think that you are right that a forgiving heart is more apt to free us from the bitterness that makes it hard to fully love.